Introverts

I think this piece by Carl King is insightful. I found it at Google+:

INTROVERT – myths about introverts:

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

AUTHOR: +Carl King

Note: I added some white space to make the piece more readable, but otherwise it is just as King wrote it.

Larry

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7 responses to “Introverts

  1. bev

    As a dyed-in-the-wool introvert, let’s just say it’s all true. Right on! (-:

  2. Joan

    Yeah..I know it’s supposed to be “introverted”
    …but I’ll sacrifice grammar for meter.

    I’m wondering why if an introvert guy
    Is so terribly leery of speaking
    When asked to write pages and pages of prose
    He’s not given to totally freaking.

    But the opposite is true. Because out of the blue
    He’ll write buckets of poems or prose
    And if you’d ask “why”, of the introvert guy
    He would prob’ly say, “ nobody knows”.

    But it must be a pain, or at least quite a strain
    To appear on a talk show promotional .
    If he’d known what it took to promote his new book
    It’d have caused him to go all emotional.

    Cause no matter how shy, the introvert guy,
    He must pimp his new product real well.
    Without any notion of verbal promotion
    His written words just will not sell.

  3. Selling words? What bosh! It is evident
    That the scribe is not wanting to be president!
    All words should be free
    As the fish in the sea
    Not pressed into service to pay-the-rent!

  4. Thanks for putting it up. I’ve tried to explain the concept, but this does it so much better.

  5. Joan

    Hey! Good one, Larry. Which is why I’m glad my husband has a job. 🙂

  6. Virginia

    Carl King’s short descriptions of these facets of introversion are very good. Although it appears to some that introversion is a limiting personality trait, an introvert can easily speak in a lecture hall filled with students, or appear on TV for a reason, not idle talk. Other than purposeful situations with large groups, conversation with one or a few friends is definitely more comfortable than a rock concert.

  7. Good to hear from you, Virginia! I’m glad you liked the piece.

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